Tag: Boundaries

Express Your Truth and Stop Self-Abandoning

As children, many of us learned that self-abandonment was the way to gain approval and love, and that we were responsible for regulating other people's emotions, trapping us in a cycle of unhealthy people-pleasing and codependency. While it's easy to hide our true selves (our thoughts, opinions, and feelings) to appease others, it is ultimately ...

Woman gesturing "shh" with her pointer finger over her lips.

Learning to Tell the Truth, Even If It Hurts

Early childhood experiences led me to believe that my real opinions and feelings didn't matter. I learned that the quickest way to gain approval was through compliance and agreeableness, and that I was responsible for regulating people's emotions for them, even if it meant abandoning myself. Whatever would cause less friction, keep the peace, or ...