Tag: Personal Growth

Top 4 Lessons I Learned from the Past Year

A part of me was somewhat reluctant to look back at the past year—not because it was particularly atrocious, but because it was tinted with a bittersweet note. Looking back at wonderful memories also reminds me of the people I shared them with who are no longer in my life in the same capacity they ...

Change is Hard: Why Knowing This Frees Us From Shame

It occurred to me that most of the things I say in this blog aren't exactly new; they're simply reminders of things that people already know but perhaps forgot. Most of us already know that we should, in theory, love ourselves. We know that authenticity is better than self-abandonment or chronic people-pleasing. We know that ...

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Ripping the Bandaid Off: A Metaphor for Healing

I threw some bandages over some small cuts I had, because they stung like crazy whenever I showered or whenever they scraped against materials. What I didn't realize was that the bandages would end up irritating my skin even more; apparently I had some kind of allergic reaction to the adhesive. I eventually had no ...

How to Overcome Perfectionism (“Never Good Enough”)

No matter how hard I worked or how much I achieved, I NEVER FELT GOOD ENOUGH. If I fell short of my unrealistically high standards, I would beat myself up (metaphorically) and label myself as completely inadequate—not just in terms of the task at hand, but as a human being. What seemed like the pursuit ...

How to Stop Being Jealous of Someone Else’s Success

You know the feeling: someone announces good news on social media and suddenly you feel a pang of envy—that odd combination of admiration mixed with insecurity and the sense of feeling threatened by someone else's success, while simultaneously feeling ashamed of yourself for feeling this way in the first place. It's so easy to fall ...

Struggling with Low Self-Worth? Picture This.

As someone who has struggled with feelings of low self-worth for most of my life, I wanted to share an analogy with you that utterly transformed the way I understood the notion of one’s “value” as a human being. I hope this video helps you remember your dignity and to love yourself a little more—especially ...

Exciting news: I’m Starting a YouTube Channel!

Soooo... after literally 4 years of sitting on this idea without daring to act on it, I've finally decided to start a YouTube channel. I am absolutely PETRIFIED, but I'm also excited to experiment with different forms media to share my insights. The channel will focus mostly on personal development, with anecdotes from my personal ...

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A Small New Year’s Reminder

As the new year approaches, we can't help but look back at the past year and consider how far we've come and where we're heading next. For many of us, 2020 has felt like being in quicksand: as much as we've tried to wriggle ourselves free, we can't help but feel somewhat stuck. Many of ...

Man looking at his reflection in a puddle.

20/20 Vision: A Year of Awareness

At the start of 2020, people used the hashtag #2020vision to describe how they would pursue their new year's resolutions with razor sharp focus. That, of course, was drastically put on hold, as we progressed through the very year that would derail everyone's plans. My experience was similar: rather than pursuing my goals with absolute ...

For A New Beginning

This past year has been very special for me, to say the least. It was the year I finally listened to a strong ache for change that had been gnawing at me for some time now. I finally stopped making excuses and did what I had to do to get to a new state, and ...